Stephanie Mills, known for hits like “Never Knew Love Like This Before” and “What You Gonna Do With My Loving?,” verbalized what many women in their AUNTIE era have experienced in their dating lives. In an interview with The Breakfast Club, the legendary R&B singer shared that men her age are just not interested in dating older women and that most men prefer light-skinned women over women who are darker complexioned.
“OGs like young girls,” Mills told Charlemagne.
“They don’t like girls like me, they don’t like older women … they think I’m too old.
The singer added: “They like them young girls and most men like high yellow women. They don’t like dark women.”
Mills, who turned 67-years-old in April, had women chiming in on her statement and quite a few were in agreement.
“She’s not lying. Everything she said was on point. But those are the two categories that most men she’s noticed have pulled from, so l agree with her analysis,” One social media user stated.
An Instagram user commented, “This is so sad but true. The colorism is real.”
Another commenter added that, “The fact that all black women of various ages know how black men are… colorist and childish says a lot.”
A few male presenting users followed up with misogynoir and ageism women are all too familiar with as well: “Girls be 67 and wanna settle down after ho**** they whole life ofcourse most men like them 25-35 tf we gonna do with a 67 year old p****”
Mills confirmed that she isn’t dating at the moment and isn’t really sweating the “Comfort Of A Man.”
“I’m a very independent woman and I don’t like knuckleheads and men have a lot of game with them and you know,”
“I’m not gonna play any games and if they don’t wanna come right and be honest in a relationship— I think even if they have another woman or whatever, another situation—I think they should be honest and most men are not even at that.”
Mills is as stunning now, as she was when she entered the game in the 1970s and rose to fame almost 50 years ago. However, she also shared that it took turning 60 years of age for her to “Feel Good All Over” and be confident in her own skin. In a discussion with Charlamagne tha God, Mills expressed that different stages came along at different ages and with age comes a sense of empowerment to do things her way—and the lack of giving a fuck about what people think.
“I think in my sixties I really was like, I didn’t care what anybody thought,” Mills said.
“I wanted to do what I wanted to do on my own terms. I’d say when I turned 55 I was like, I’m doing what I wanna do. I don’t care what anybody thinks.
“I mean at 67, I’m so confident.” Mills stated. “I feel like I could do anything, you know?”
Mills isn’t alone in that mindset. As women mature beyond their 50s and into their golden years, many begin to shake loose from the constraints society has placed on them. Newfound freedom is the topic of many conversations across social media, on panels, talk shows and in movies and books like The Color Purple by Alice Walker. To put it bluntly, in this new day and age, Aunties know what they want in and out of relationships and are no longer compromising around the non-negotiables. Aunties have finally learned to respect the power of loving themselves—and it’s about damn time.
To see the entire interview and learn more about what AUNTIE Stephanie is up to these days, peep the video below
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